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First Date Etiquette Rules For Men (Lifestyle)



First impressions are pretty important when it comes to dating, which can make the idea of a first date even more terrifying, from what to wear down to where to actually hang out.

  1. Being a gentleman is still a plus with women.
    It’s just nice and classy, when a gentleman opens a door and so is paying for a date. Not forgetting to compliment your date. It could be their shoes or a simple, “you look lovely”.
  2. Dress nice for dates.
    Dressing nice does not always mean buttoned up shirts and good shoes. Just note that wrinkled clothes are the biggest fashion turn-off. And, baggy clothes weren’t popular either. A collared shirt with a pair of jeans and shoes.
  3. Offer to pay.
    Always note that if you requested the pleasure of their company, then you should pay. Better yet, excuse yourself before the end of the evening to pay the bill out of sight. It’s a stylish touch.
  4. Phones off.
    The greatest compliment you can give a person is your undivided attention.
  5. Ensure she gets home safely by seeing her into her ride and asking her to let you know when she is home.
  6. Message the day after a date, if not sooner


Is African Media Fit For Purpose?



Have our journalists become so blinded by the jaundiced views of foreign reporters that they fail to see anything good or worthy of praise when it comes to writing about Africa? Have we become a community of whiners? Asks, Allen Choruma

Why have we African journalists perfected the art of “whining and whining” about wrongdoing, forgetting to give praise when praise is due? Have we become so blind that we can’t distinguish between the good, bad and ugly and have to depend on others to tell us what is what?

In his long running column Baffour’s Beefs, in the June issue of New African – ‘Praise where praise is due’ – the New Africa’s Editor- at -large, Baffour Ankomah remarked: “Our professional calling enjoins us to point out wrongdoing most of the time, and therefore we unwittingly get stuck in that groove, forever whining and whining.”

Truer words could not have been written. Through our writing, we have unwittingly helped to harden the “negative stereotype” narratives of Africa and allowed them to become the basis of describing Africa.

Without a counter–response from African writers, these vivid stereotypes will remain unchallenged to such an extent that many Africans will believe in them as well. Negative perceptions on Africa, to this day, have tended to overshadow the best made in Africa, invented in Africa, and created in Africa stories.

African countries are reshaping from within – using African solutions to create diverse, inclusive and vibrant economies. Yet this resurgence remains confined inside Africa as only a handful of our scribes take time to expose it for the world to marvel at.

The so-called ‘single African story’ implies that Africa is one big country, and there is only one narrative: beautiful landscapes and animals – often spoilt by unscrupulous ‘natives’, but appreciated by noble Westerners – together with stories of underdevelopment, poverty, war, corruption, and disease. This has been the staple of Western comic books, magazines, films, literature and current affairs coverage on radio, television and print media for centuries now.

This is despite the fact that tens of millions of Westerners travel to Africa on business or leisure, many live in the continent, and our countries are crawling with Western journalists and international media organisations like the BBC, CNN, Deutsche Welle and so on, which have dedicated programmes on Africa. It goes to show that the myth is stronger than the reality.

A myth can only be replaced by another myth, the current ‘single

African story’ can only change when it is replaced by another ‘African story’ which is much closer to the reality of our continent. Unless this is done, the old stereotypes will endure – whether we like it or not.

We know that Africa is the second largest continent on earth with a huge diversity in all spheres, geographically, and in its wealth of flora and fauna. It has mountains and plains, coastal regions and the world’s largest inland waterways including Lake Victoria and the River Nile.

In terms of human society, Africa again has the largest diversity of ethnic groups, languages, dialects and cultures in the world. There are worlds within worlds in Africa, each complete in itself. Other societies make a huge song and dance about the uniqueness of their cultures even if these (as in Europe) differ from each other only in small degrees. They celebrate the difference, commercialise it and build their tourism industries around it. We try to hide our differences lest we are accused of being tribalistic!

The problem, as so many commentators have said in these pages, is that the centuries of colonialism have hammered into us the belief that we are somehow inferior. The same aspects that others take pride in, for example the colour of their skins, their languages, their traditions, their music and so on, are seen as negative traits when it comes to us.

Is our media reflective of this trend and as a result, blind to the best in us? Is it fit for purpose?

Nuanced approach

Instead of looking at the greener grass in our neighbour’s yard, let us count our blessings and appreciate and celebrate what has been given us. Unless African journalists learn to give praise when it’s due, we risk continuing in the same mould singing, like kindergarten kids, the same chorus of wrongs, over and over, but with destructive outcomes for our transformation agenda.

However, this does not mean we should shut our eyes to incompetence or corruption, to abuse of human rights, or theft from the public purse or injustice. By no means – that is the journalist’s main role, to hold power to account on behalf of the citizens. But we must have balance.

We must never forget that our role must be always on the side of the people. But since what government does and the decisions it makes have a major impact on millions of us, we must scrutinise all its actions and decisions.

We must hold public officials and elected politicians to higher standards as their actions have far greater impact on more of us than the actions of any private individual.

While we must give ‘praise where praise is due’, we must not go overboard and praise someone for simply doing what they are paid to do. I do not expect to be praised for doing my day’s work – that is basic. Governments should not expect to be praised for doing what they are elected to do and given all the resources they need to do so. That is the very minimum.

If the government fails to do its job, it must be criticised as this failure affects us all. What is more, we as taxpayers, employ governments and therefore call them public servants. As such, we should expect our employees to deliver what we pay them huge salaries to do. If they fail to do so, we must call them to account.

Temper our judgements

We must temper our judgement based on capabilities. Just as we will praise an African national team for reaching the World Cup quarterfinals rather than criticise it for not winning the trophy, we should calibrate our praise and criticism of the performances of our governments depending on their capacities and the size of the challenges facing them. In fact, it is the ordinary people who should be the stars of our coverage. We should seek out the doers and those who give more than 100% to improve the lives of others, or do remarkable things and highlight their achievements.

Here we can lavish praise when praise is due.

After all, when we talk of a nation, we mean the people of that nation and their capabilities, not a few isolated individuals. The better individuals perform in all aspects of life, the better the nation performs and this is what we in the media must seek out and champion.

Talking about giving praise where praise is due, I would be failing in my duty if I did not say that everything I have outlined above that the media should do, is being done, month in month out by our very own New African. And it has been doing this for the past 50 years! The Americans salute Time magazine and the British The Economist; I, as an African salute our icon, New African and in this, I know I am joined by every person who has ever read this great publication.

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AFRICA’s RICHEST PASTORS: Combining Faith, Business Success And Hedonism.



Many choose the ways of religion, but the few who are ordained to become pastors are likely to be the most influential, reputable, and, of course, rich. Nowadays being a pastor is proven to also be quite the profitable occupation, mostly due to the extremely high number of believers and followers they lead, the worldwide exposure and other profitable endeavors.

This list reviews selected Reverends, Pastors, Prophets and Christian leaders. On one hand, we tried to provide insight on their community work, their spiritual guidance, and their generous contribution to society. On the other hand, we tried to expose the hedonism, Hollywood-like lifestyle, and in some cases, financial corruption that came along with these individual’s success in reaching the heart and soul of communities across Africa.
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Pastor Chris Oyakhilome

Chris Oyakhilome is the president of the Christian ministry “Christ Embassy”, and is serving as a minister in Nigeria for more than 30 years. Chris Oyakhilome runs television programs focused around faith healing that generated millions of viewers, he is also a best-selling author of numerous books that are distributed in over 140 languages.

His current net worth is about $50 million. Chris Oyakhilome is also known for his philanthropic works, aiding the weak both spiritually and materially, with his mission’s motto being “every child is your child”.

Bishop David Oyedepo

With a net worth of no less than $150 million, David Oyedepo is the single richest pastor in Nigeria. David Oyedepo claims to have received a message from God when he was younger, tasking him to cleanse the world from evil through faith, which led him to found his church.
Today, he is the bishop of Faith Tabernacle, a 50,000-seat megachurch that he founded in 1983.

The church headquartered at Logas, Nigeria, and leads one of the largest following in all of Africa. David Oyedepo is also a renowned author and preacher and published over 70 works. He and his church own several houses as well as four private jets.

Prophet T.B. Joshua

Temitope Balogun Joshua grained recognition all across Africa and the world in general, mostly thanks to his famous TV network “EmmanuelTV”, which is, in fact, the largest Christian television network in Africa. Yet, he isn’t only famous in Africa, but also as an online personality, as he has over 2 million followers on Facebook and over 800,000 subscribers on YouTube, which makes him the most popular pastor on YouTube. T.B. Joshua also received backlash from families due to his methods of healing, which led to his ban from a few African countries.

With a wealth of $10-15 million, Forbes once crowned him as Nigeria’s third richest pastor, a claim that was later denied by his church. It was also rumored that Joshua had purchased a $60 million Gulfstream private jet. However, several media channels with ties to Joshua dismissed this statement.

Prophet Shepherd Bushiri

Known as the “Major One”, Shepherd Bushiri is a pastor, preacher and the founder of the Enlightened Christian Gathering and has a major following, making him not only a prominent religious figure but also in politics.

Shepherd Bushiri claims to cause miracles that cure HIV and other diseases, although those claims generated some criticism towards him, which led to his ban from the country of Botswana and shutdown of one of his churches. His net worth is around $150 million. He owns a fleet of cars, a private jet worth about $37 million, and houses across many countries in Africa.

Pastor Tshifhiwa Irene

The leader of the Divine Truth World Restoration Services, Tshifhiwa Irene has made quite an impression on American audience especially and generated a big following worldwide, especially via social networks.

She also has a popular television network on the African broadcast service DStv. She is considered to be one of the richest pastors in the world, with a net worth of roughly $40 million.

Bishop Ayo Oritsejafor

Ayo Oritsejafor was a president of the Christian Association of Nigeria (CAN) and received numerous awards in regard to his peace and humanitarian initiatives. Ayo Oritsejafor also has received heavy criticism, as CAN is not well recognized in Nigeria, and had many publications writing headlines about him.

Today, he is the second richest pastor in Nigeria. Ayo Oritsejafor is renowned across Africa for his luxury and wealth, as he owns a private jet, university (Eagles Height University), and a bank(!).

Pastor Matthew Ashimolowo

Matthew Ashimolowo is a pastor in one of the United Kingdom’s largest churches and hosts about 12,000 people every Sunday. Matthew Ashimolowo hosts a daily program named “Winning Ways” on several radio stations and television channels in Europe and Africa. Ashimolowo converted to Christianity from Islam when he was 20 years of age, after the death of his father.

Forbes estimates his net worth to be $6-10 million, and his church owns assets worth more than $40 million. Ashimolowo was subject to an investigation by the Charity Commision of England and Wales. The Commission released an inquiry report stating that Ashimolowo had mismanaged and took advantage of his charity by approving personal payment to himself and to his wife in the sums of $500,000 and purchased himself a $100,000 car with charity funds. He was ordered by the commission to repay around $300,000

Pastor Ray Mccauley

Ray McCauley is a known figure in the South African religious communities. In his early years, he chased a bodybuilding career and took part in several championships. After attending Bible college, McCauley founded Rhema Bible Church. Nowadays, the church has 45,000 strong followers, which makes it the largest church congregation in South Africa.

Ray McCauley also has controversy following him, as his church was previously accused of the prosperity gospel and other allegations regarding his lifestyle. McCauley often defends himself by saying that he earns a salary of any executive in a medium-sized company.

Prophet Uebert Angel

Often seen traveling by helicopter, Uebert Angel is the president and founder of the “Spirit Embassy”, a registered business in the United Kingdom, as well as other businesses he leads in the UK. He is often described by publications as a “young charismatic prophet”, and considered by the scene to be a revolutionary preacher.

While being somewhat controversial, Uebert Angel has been making headlines in Africa and Europe for years with the miracles he has been reportedly performing. In 2014, he was featured in Forbes magazine, making him the second ever Zimbabwean to be featured on a Forbes magazine. There is no accurate estimation of his net worth, however, it is confirmed that he owns several residential and commercial properties valued in over $25 million, as well as luxury cars such as a Range Rover, a Lamborghini and a Rolls Royce valued at over $5 million combined.

Rev. Chris Okotie

An established author, musician, televangelist, and founder of Household of God Church, Chris Okotie is one of Nigeria’s most famous pastors. After several years of attending the University of Nigeria, he decided to quit his studies in pursuit of a music career only to return later and graduated with a law degree and proceeded to attend the Grace Fellowship Bible School, from where he established his own church.

Chris Okotie made some presidential runs as well, but never found successes in the elections. He is a very wealthy man, with a passion for luxury cars. His car fleet includes cars like Range Rover and a Rolls Royce Phantom. His net worth estimation is somewhere between $3-10 million.

Pastor Enoch Adeboye

Enoch Adeboye was given a respectable position in the church “RCCG” in Nigeria in 1981. At the time, he was also a Mathematics professor at the University of Ilorin until 1984 when he decided to give up his position as a professor at the university to become a full-time pastor.

Ever since Enoch Adeboye became an overseer of RCCG, he worked hard to expand the church and gain recognition worldwide. Today, Enoch Adeboye’s church has branched into more than 196 nations, and he is considered by many to be one of the most influential pastors.


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Meet The Black Lawyer Who Refuses To Cut His Locks To Make His Colleagues Feel Better.



Marcus Shute Jr., a 34-year old lawyer from Nashville, raised a few eyebrows when he decided to grow his locks in 2002. But he still refuses to cut his hair in hopes to make a point that his personal appearance should not affect his professional career! In fact, Shute is a well sought-after lawyer and he runs his own law firm in Nashville, Tennessee.

"Many times during my matriculation through undergrad/law school and in my professional career I was told I would not be successful as an attorney if I didn't cut my locs," Shute said in an interview with The Shade Room.

Shute also said he had experienced being disregarded for promotion even though he technically deserved it just because he "did not fit the look." At one time, he said a judge even mistook him as a client instead of a law student.

Despite that, he chose to be authentic and not to conform to the industry's so-called standards. His experiences also inspired him to open his own law practice. He wanted most of his colleagues and clients to relate to him.

"The law industry, like any other industry, is a microcosm of the real world. It needs acceptance, inclusion, and diversity, but it needs to be more than empty lip-service and to be done in a meaningful way," he said. "Less than 5 percent of attorneys are black. And even fewer are in a position to hire at their firm, one of the reasons I founded Shute Law."

For more information about Shute Law, visit


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15 Year Old Ghanaian Stabbed To Death In London.



A 15-year-old boy handed himself in at an east London police station on Friday, and was arrested on suspicion of murder. He remains in custody.

Police were called on Thursday, 10 October at 15:20hrs to reports of a male found stabbed outside Stratford Broadway near Tramway Avenue.

Officers attended along with the London Ambulance Service and the teenager was found with critical injuries. He died at the scene at 15:49 hours.

His next of kin have been informed. The victim has been named as Baptista Adjei, 15,  from North Woolwich.

Formal identification awaits and a post-mortem examination will be held in due course.

A second teenager, aged 15, was found with stab injuries and he has been taken to an east London hospital. His injuries are not life threatening.

No arrests have been made. Enquiries are ongoing. A crime scene remains in place.

Homicide detectives from Specialist Crime have been informed and will be leading the investigation.

DCI Chris Soole, who is leading the investigation said: “First and foremost are thoughts are with this young man’s family and friends. They so tragically are having to come to terms with this terrible loss of life.

“Were you there? Did you see anything? This is a very busy area and lots of people would have been out on the school-run or making their way home. We know that the victim’s friends came to his aid and members of the public provided first aid at the scene. We need anyone else who has information and has not yet spoken to police to come forward.

“A Section 60 is in place for the whole of Newham borough as a result of this incident. Enquiries, including review of local CCTV footage and forensic analysis is in hand. We are working quickly to build a clear and full picture of precisely what unfolded. If you have information, do the right thing and get in touch.”

Anyone who can assist police is asked to call 101 quoting CAD 4644/10OCT19. Alternatively call Crimestoppers anonymously on 0800 555 111. You can also tweet information to @MetCC

If there are any young people who either have information about violence or knife crime, they can visit where they can pass on information anonymously. Fearless is part of the Crimestoppers charity, and is also independent of the police.

If you need help or information to support someone you suspect is involved in knife crime, or you want assistance yourself, then you can visit or LondonNeedsYouAlive.

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